This pain you have, you can either deal with it right now and get closer to Allah, or you can delay dealing with the pain; seeking the pity of others, seeking the help of others and prolonging this pain you have inside. So many times we feel on the ultimate low and ask so and so "please make dua for me" but who is the actual one that needs to turn to Allah in dua?
Whether you have lost something that you love, or feel betrayed, neglected or whether its a lifetime build up of pain, your very first instinct will be to isolate yourself. You want to be alone. You have to understand that this is exactly not what you want to do, this is shaitaan telling you that you will "feel better" when you're alone because you're the only one who understands what you're going through. It's such a vulnerable time for you and you become such an easy target for shaitaan and he's only going to deceive you.
After you've been knocked down, you've cried buckets full and gotten over the initial pain the initial anger then you need surround yourself with good and pious people. People who remind you of Allah.
Turn your pain into something positive use, it as a motivation to bring you back to Allah, to fix your relationship with him and his beloved and this is what all of us who are going through pain and suffering need to realize. That this pain and suffering is not a punishment from Allah, rather its a calling! Allah is calling you to come back to him and this calling comes through trials and tribulations. None of it is supposed to break you rather its supposed to shape you and make you
So there are two ways you can go. You can turn to Allah swt straight away, pouring your heartache to him, asking for his help and drawing nearer to him or you can restrict that pain all to yourself not doing anything about it and then see what it does to your Imaan...
When you isolate yourself you Imaan starts to get lower and lower and at times you feel rebellious and you fall into sin. Where did you go wrong? you gave into the shaitaan and shaitaan has promised that he will lead you away from the path of Allah.
By Allah there is so many blessings and wisdom in trials and tribulations that we can't even see. They're a form of purification from sins from ones self, ones desires so you can reach the purest of places- Jannatul Firdous InshaAllah and this is why Allah inflicts you with pain and hardship.
You see nothing in this life will make you truly happy. Nothing. True contentment and satisfaction will come in the next life when one is with Allah in the most Beautiful of gardens.
In the end, it is all about perspective and how you deal with the situation because the remedy is there so easy for you to do all you have to do is just take a step towards Allah and he will come running to you. So it is very important that when you're inflicted with a trial that you change you perception of it. It's not a punishment its not meant to kill you inside or hurt you but its a means to get closer to your Rabb and nothing is more important at this moment in time than patience.
Things are already difficult for you so don't be impatient and incur the wrath of Allah. If you are patient and you remember Allah he will remember you, he will shower you with his infinite mercy and he'll mention you among the angels saying I love so and so! among the angels! SubhanAllah
So in times of hardship just submit to Allah, open the Quran and drown your sorrow in it, recite salwaat on the best of creation to calm you heart. Never sit and gloat feeling sorry for yourself, because you're only going to create your own destruction. The choice is yours.
للّهُمّ صَلّ عَلَى مُحَمّدٍ